The Caring Counselor

If I have a to-do list, there is no way in hell I am sitting still. Even if I am sitting down, either my mouth or my mind are running. It drives my poor girlfriend crazy, especially when she wants “quiet time.” It is physically impossible for me when I am in that mode.

You’d think being activated in marathon mode would be a good thing. However, it has its drawbacks. Even Forrest Gump eventually stopped running.

And when you keep on running and running and running…You will get tired. My brain likes to take into consideration every possibility. I find myself trying to fix every problem I think about. I want things to happen and quickly. Sometimes I even project this onto others by becoming a bit pushy. Not bad pushy, but trying to motivate others. Unfortunately, it often backfires because the other person isn’t nearly where I am mentally.

This is where I learned the value of slowing it down. Bringing down the pace can be much more impactful in the moment. The biggest benefit I have seen is analyzing my present priorities. Look at what I need at that moment rather than three weeks from now. I can check in with my needs and better maintain a balance. Do I need to rest? What task can I get done? Should I eat something? Sounds easy, but it isn’t how your brain is programmed anymore.

It also allows me to meet others where they are at. Instead of being pushy, I can be more aware of their stage of change. They might not be ready to jump ahead yet. There very well could be a hurdle or two making it harder for them to even get past today. Therefore, sitting back and paying attention to their current needs can be that much more effective.

Build those moments into your day and throw up the yield sign. You’ll be happy you slowed down.

-The Caring Counselor