self-care
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Working as a therapist, I hear my clients talk a lot about “what if.” This questions serves as a primary perpetrator of anxiety. But that’s just it. Anxiety is the fear of the unknown. The answer to “what if” will likely always be just that – unknown. It is so easy to get on the…
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Admit it. You sang it in your head too. But yeah…It’s been a hot minute since I posted on here. I didn’t forget about it. My life (and lack of inspiration) got in the way. After mulling over on the appropriate time to jump back on, I figured I’d just start writing again. I know…
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If I have a to-do list, there is no way in hell I am sitting still. Even if I am sitting down, either my mouth or my mind are running. It drives my poor girlfriend crazy, especially when she wants “quiet time.” It is physically impossible for me when I am in that mode. You’d…
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Much like anyone else, I like to be in control. Peering into the unknown drives my anxiety meter off the cliff and into the dark abyss of ruminating. My entire week consisted of such situations. Ones where I had no control. On at least four occasions I found myself saying, “There is nothing I can…
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I am exhausted while writing this. That’s for sure. I think this post will read more like a journal entry as opposed to a blog post or self-care advice. The reason I am tired is because I haven’t been sleeping well at all. It’s been like that for over a week now. Without getting into…
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Yours truly has been on an acceptance and commitment therapy kick lately. I like that it does not cause you to gaslight yourself like cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT). Nor does it carry all of the technical psychobabble that dialectical behavioral therapy (DBT) has. Instead, it gives us a realistic way to handle life’s problems as…
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I do love my work. As challenging as counseling can be, it really does ignite my passion. As a young man working towards my career, there was one by-product I never considered. In my interactions with my clients, I am constantly being served reminders. Professionally, this is known as countertransference. I see myself in my…
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Take a look at your to-do list. I dare you. Look at it. Stare at it. Think about it. It’s so much fun, isn’t it? Wondering about all those tasks. Just sitting there. Waiting for you. Looming in the shadows. Living rent-free in your head. Task paralysis haunts us all. Often, it occurs when our…
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A year full of trials and tribulations. I am so damn happy that this year is over. 2026 couldn’t come fast enough. In what has become an annual tradition, it is time for my annual reflection. Let’s look back at what I set out to do this year, see how I did, and outline my…
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2025 has been a bitch. I wish you understood how excited I am that we are entering the last month of the year. Around every corner stands a metaphorical Mike Tyson ready to punch me in the face and bite off my ear. Every goddamn time though, I get back up. It ain’t easy, but…
The Caring Counselor 