trauma

  • The Constant Reminder

    The Constant Reminder

    I once saw this meme about how a client found out his therapist had their own therapist. After disclosing and stumping each therapists’ therapist, he “advanced to the next level” until he met the “boss therapist.” I always got a good laugh out of it. Interestingly, there is some truth behind it. As both a

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  • Sometimes All You Can Do Is Try

    I have been trying so hard to get back on my once-a-week writing schedule, but again life got in the way. The keyword lately has been try. That’s all I have been doing. I am trying to stay afloat. I try to give it my all at work. I try to push through the pain,

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  • Slacking

    Slacking

    Yeah, I know. It’s been a while. Or sporadic at best. And to think, at one time, I disdained writing. I abhorred the thought of putting my fingers to a keyboard. That was way back when teachers and professors dictated the topic. Since its inception in 2017, this blog turned into a pillar of my

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  • Take a Moment

    Take a Moment

    The “what if” mentality appeared as the theme of the week. Almost all of my clients came in complaining about severe bouts of anxiety, primarily fueled by ruminating thoughts. Being in that headspace quickly snowballs out of control. The next thing you know you are falling down the rabbit hole. Ultimately, we get pulled away

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  • The Caring Counselor Year in Review (2022)

    I feel so far behind. Ten days into the 2023, and I am just now getting to my year in review. In all honesty, 2023 has not been so kind to me thus far. I brought the new year in with borderline bronchitis, and work has been kicking my ass as of late. This was

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  • Harder Than Usual

    Harder Than Usual

    This holiday season, man. It feels like there has been a full moon every night since Thanksgiving. My life feels out of control at times and harder to manage this in years past. Not only does it seem this way for me but also everyone else I’ve spoken to. The increased stress levels, prominent feelings

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  • Missing You Big Time

    Missing You Big Time

    Dad, I miss you. I don’t know why, but this holiday season seems to be hitting harder than last. I mean, I think I know why, but my heart hurts more so. I definitely felt it more after attending your brother’s memorial service. RIP Uncle Sam. Our family came together and showed their unconditional love

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  • As Simple As A List

    As Simple As A List

    *****NSFW language**** You’ve been warned. Let’s be fucking real for a second. Life ain’t easy. A “normal” (whatever that is anymore) day is complicated. Throw whatever extra shit into the mix you want, and you have the perfect clusterfuck. This is exactly how I felt. What sucked even more is being able to pin down

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  • Grace Over Guilt

    Grace Over Guilt

    By far, I am my own worst critic. I am notorious for self-deprecation. Given my long trauma history, black-and-white thinking, and unrealistic expectations of myself, it’s easy to go down that rabbit hole. Personally, I like to have little mantras to keep myself in check. Just short sayings that I can repeat to myself from

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  • Breaking The Pattern

    Breaking The Pattern

    After a busy work week, I took my exhausted, yet excited ass on the road. I was on my way to spending the weekend with my awesome girlfriend. She lives about an hour to an hour and a half away from me, so the drive can be a nice way to decompress sometimes. I turn

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