• When Is It Okay to Pull Back?

    Not many things make me happier than helping someone – especially a close friend or family member. Helping out brings me a sense of purpose. There is a breaking  point however where it goes from meaningful to flat out annoying. I do not mind listening to someone a few times and offering suggestions or resources.

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  • I Am Poem

    I Am Poem

    All the time I emphasize the importance of insight. If self-care is a journey, insight is the compass. Sometimes the hardest part of embarking on such a trek is simply knowing where to start. This is why I spent several months identifying my own well-being deficits before pursuing specific self-care goals. I engaged in thorough

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  • Confronting Your Demons

    It was fifteen minutes before nine on a Sunday morning. I sat there at a diner table with my eyes anxiously darting from my phone up to the windows facing the parking lot. I glanced over at the gift card and the birthday card contemplating how I would bring up the topic. Finally, I see

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  • The Word Should

    The Word Should

    My broken ankle throbbed throughout the night, making sleeping comfortably impossible. In an effort to get sleep a little longer, I cancelled my first two appointment of the day and moved another to later in the day. As a result, I had little to no reason to budge before noon. When I finally rolled over

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  • It’s Always There

    It’s Always There

    “I have a secret to tell you. You know it’s always there — in the back of your mind.” I oversaw a small partial care program for roughly two years. Roughly 15 to 20 clients attended the three-hour long program three days a week. Even though it was a small program, these clients took a

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  • In for the Long Haul

    In for the Long Haul

    I admit that I can get away with things as a community-based mental health counselor that the average counselor dreams of. I get to take my clients out into the community to parks, restaurants, community centers, drop-in centers, appointments, schools, etc. versus being confined to a desk all day long. It allows me to be

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  • When the average person envisions self-care, they often imagine laying back in a beach chair or sprawleId out on a massage table. These are wonderful ways to rejuvenate the mind, body, and soul. However, how often can we realistically afford these types of activities either due to time constraints, responsibilities, or finances? Also, individuals often

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  • The Power of Understanding

    Working as an in-home counselor, I can do things that typical counselors cannot. Just the other day I took one of my clients out to lunch for our session. This young man has been on house arrest  for a little over two months. He turned eighteen years old in the midst of all this and

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  • Vicarious Trauma

    Vicarious Trauma

    This week was rough. My mental health took a toll on me. I recently transitioned between jobs. I was working two counseling jobs, easily adding up to sixty hours a week. This was all while experiencing an ongoing battle with family conflict and medical issues (fibromyalgia). I just could not keep up with it like

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  • What Therapy Is and Isn’t

    As a psychotherapist on the cusp of being independently licensed, my past few years in the field have been quite emotionally draining.  My personal licensing process has involved countless hours of conducting therapy sessions (group, family, and individual,) case management duties (i.e. phone calls and meetings with schools, guidance counselors, in-home therapists, treatment team, and

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