Self-Care Basics

  • Promotion of Growth

    Promotion of Growth

    People do not like change whether it is good or bad. We like to have control. We like knowing potential outcomes and feeling like we have some influence over it. However, reality demonstrates time and time again that we possess little control over anything. Recently, my agency promoted me. I went from being a middleman…

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  • Thought-Feeling Balance Exercise

    This week’s therapy session took a deep turn. A few days prior, I fell into a funk of sorts. Feeling overwhelmed by illness, work, and family stuff compounded on top of one another. By the time therapy rolled around, I pretty much pulled myself out of it. This funk though sparked a different conversation though.…

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  • I. Am. Enough.

    I. Am. Enough.

    This week kicked my ass metaphorically and literally. The shit show started off with a stomach bug that knocked me on my ass. For 48 hours, I was bedridden and blowing chunks. I could not sit up for more than a minute without feeling lightheaded and breaking out in a sweat. I missed two days…

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  • Build. It. In.

    Build. It. In.

    Our lives present quite the conundrum. Throughout our entire lives, we learn that change is the only constant. However, as a counselor and through personal experience, I came to find out that the most human beings do not cope well with change. We possess an innate desire to feel in control and like to know…

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  • Time to Refresh

    Time to Refresh

    My self-care journey started over five years ago at this point. I literally began from scratch and learned how to incorporate self-care basics into my daily routine. My self-care developed into deeper insight, a spiritual connection, and learning about my inner turmoil and its effects. Boy, oh, boy, and has it been a journey. However,…

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  • NaNoWriMo- The Caring Counselor Edition

    For those of you who don’t know, it is national novel writing month a.k.a. NaNoWriMo. Now, I do not plan on writing a novel per se, but I have always wanted to try writing every day during the month of NaNoWriMo as an exercise. I honestly didn’t even realize that it started yesterday until after…

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  • Refocus Your Survival Mode

    Refocus Your Survival Mode

    Howdy, y’all! It’s been a few weeks. My New Year’s resolution to post at least once a week has obviously gone out the window. Sadly, this time was due to lack of time. The last few weeks have been chock full of two jobs, bachelor parties, weddings, and medical appointments. Most of it was run-of-the-mill,…

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  • Going Back to “Normal”

    I abhor the word “normal.” Nothing in this godforsaken world is “normal.” Of course, it is definitely more along the lines of a spectrum of what is socially acceptable. When you meet someone new, you shake their hand, give them a fist bump, or at least introduce yourself by name. You do not go up…

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  • The Apple Doesn’t Fall Far From The Tree

    I have no idea why, but I got to thinking about my dating life this morning. I am going to sound cocky when I say this, but getting dates has not been the problem. I possess a charismatic personality that pulls people in. The issue comes with keeping them around. It has been five years…

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  • For Yourself

    For Yourself

    I work at my drug and alcohol job only three hours a week, but it somehow always manages to teach me worth a lifetime. It was a small group that day – three women and me as the counselor. Two of the three invested so much time into their recovery. This was far from their…

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