Self-Care Basics

  • Take a Moment

    Take a Moment

    The “what if” mentality appeared as the theme of the week. Almost all of my clients came in complaining about severe bouts of anxiety, primarily fueled by ruminating thoughts. Being in that headspace quickly snowballs out of control. The next thing you know you are falling down the rabbit hole. Ultimately, we get pulled away…

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  • I Did It. I Am Doing It. I’ll Keep Doing It.

    I often preach that an important facet of self-care is goal setting and the follow through. We usually know what we need to do to take care of ourselves. However, we can be unsure of how to execute our plan, feel like it’s too much effort, or struggle to find the motivation. With that being…

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  • Harder Than Usual

    Harder Than Usual

    This holiday season, man. It feels like there has been a full moon every night since Thanksgiving. My life feels out of control at times and harder to manage this in years past. Not only does it seem this way for me but also everyone else I’ve spoken to. The increased stress levels, prominent feelings…

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  • As Simple As A List

    As Simple As A List

    *****NSFW language**** You’ve been warned. Let’s be fucking real for a second. Life ain’t easy. A “normal” (whatever that is anymore) day is complicated. Throw whatever extra shit into the mix you want, and you have the perfect clusterfuck. This is exactly how I felt. What sucked even more is being able to pin down…

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  • Doing Nothing Does Something

    Some of you likely had a conniption reading that title. How does one do nothing and do something simultaneously? It is like dividing by zero. It is impossible. No, it’s not. It can be done. I might be crazy, but I can explain. Your boy had nothing short of an emotionally and physically exhausting week.…

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  • Grace Over Guilt

    Grace Over Guilt

    By far, I am my own worst critic. I am notorious for self-deprecation. Given my long trauma history, black-and-white thinking, and unrealistic expectations of myself, it’s easy to go down that rabbit hole. Personally, I like to have little mantras to keep myself in check. Just short sayings that I can repeat to myself from…

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  • The Benefits of Having a Pet Companion

    Now that I have lured you in with an absolutely adorable picture of a golden retriever, I would like to introduce you to Butler. Although he is not technically my dog (belongs to my landlord), I have been in his life every day since he was two months old. He just turned six years old,…

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  • Another Hit

    Another Hit

    Feeling disheartened this week. After thinking I had my health under control, it decided to throw two middle fingers in my face. Two weeks ago, my stomach had a familiar nauseous feeling. The bouts of nausea were followed shortly by multiple visits to the bathroom. Since being diagnosed with GERD (or reflux) back in February,…

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  • Physically Discouraged

    Physically Discouraged

    Fibromyalgia is a bitch. Being a male diagnosed with fibromyalgia is an even bigger bitch. I do not wish this illness upon my worst enemy, as it has consumed a significant part of the last six years. For those of you who are not familiar with this asshole of an illness, fibromyalgia is characterized as…

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  • Sometimes You Just Need to Slow Down

    I’ve been burning the candle at both ends. I actively took steps to alleviate stress, engage in self-care, and utilize my support system. However, it might have been too little too late. To no one’s surprise (including my own), I am burnt the fuck out. Between a promotion, a second part-time job, and a new…

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